I love love love my XM radio. I’m quite enjoying the all 70’s station. Plenty of great music from that decade. Occasionally there might be too many disco songs, but that’s when I switch back to my favourite station. Oprah and Friends!! For those of you who don’t know, I am an Oprah fan.
She’s been having a “Soul Series” on her radio show. I love it, and it just makes me even happier and more grateful that I have this radio. Yesterday her guest was James Hillman who wrote “The Soul’s Code: In Search of Character and Calling”. I just have to share with you some things that stuck with me from their conversation. Keep in mind that I’m obviously paraphrasing. I was driving and couldn’t very well take notes!
What really struck me was how he says we can figure out our Calling. I struggle with this at times. What am I meant to do? What is my special gift to the world? He says you find out by asking yourself, “What do people want of me?” You know when you say of your friends, she’s really good at this or that? That could be her/his Calling. There’s nothing wrong with being really good at doing people’s taxes. We need those people. Or being a good listener, friend, or mother. I have a friend who is awesome at organizing. When I need help in that department, she’s the one I ask.
I also like how he separates your Calling from being a celebrity or even from your vocation. It CAN just be as simple as having a wonderful sense of humour. Those people always seem to bring light to a dim or sad day. I think of you, Joy, in this way. Someone who is calm in an emergency has a special gift, too.
So, our Calling doesn’t have to be this huge lofty idea. It can be, of course. Oprah certainly has a huge Calling. But it can also be “small” and be just as special and important.
Hillman goes on to say that we begin to see signs of a Calling in childhood, and it often appears as dysfunctions. I remember an interview with Lance Armstrong along with his mother. She was asked what he was like as a child. She answered that he was always on the go. Non-stop. Climbing, running, etc. Don’t we all know kids like that? And in this society we seem to want to drug them.
I think of my daughter. She is in her head a lot. She can be a bit dawdley and she takes her time with everything. She is so creative,though. She loves to go to where we keep our craft stuff, and just come up with ideas and make things. On her own. Her habit of being slow CAN be a bit of a pain when you want to get somewhere. She’s always the last one to leave school, the last one to eat lunch, and she never finishes her craft in class. When the other kids are just quickly colouring their pictures in she’s the one who’s taking her time and making it rainbow coloured. And my son gives me a different set of challenges. He’s determined and loves to be first at everything. When I question him and mention that he should give someone else a turn being first in line or whatever, he becomes frustrated. “So, should I just go slowwwww?” he asks like it would be the most painful thing. I’m not saying we shouldn’t encourage and teach our children boundaries. My daughter needs to learn that sometimes she’s holding people up, and my son needs to learn good sportsmanship. But when I look at these traits in a different way I can have appreciation for them and actually embrace them.
I look forward to more in this Soul Series.