I got mad at my son last night and I feel badly about it. It was 1:30 am in my defense, but I still shouldn’t have gotten mad.
He’s been having troubles sleeping lately. He thinks a lot about stuff that happened during the day as he’s trying to go to sleep. Sometimes it’s happy stuff and sometimes it’s stuff that upset him. I used to let him listen to an audio book, but that had the opposite effect. He’d still be awake at 10:30 or even 11:00 at night. Then we tried soft music, but still he stayed awake. Finally, we got him a CD with the sounds of the ocean and that seems to have helped. He’s also waking through the night, though. He says he’s scared of ghosts or noises that he hears and the only way he seems to be able to fall back to sleep is if I lie with him. He comes into our room at all hours and announces that he can’t sleep. Usually, I just groggily stumble to his room and lie down with him. Soon we’re both asleep. Then I wake an hour later and go back to my bed. Last night, in my groggy still half asleep state, I decided to tell him that he has to try and go back to sleep on his own.
I don’t mind lying down with the kids in their beds once in awhile, or having them come to our bed from to time, but I was beginning to see a long standing habit forming. I know some people may think I’m being selfish, but I don’t want my sleep interrupted every night. I get pretty bitchy when I’m tired.
So, for some reason I thought it was a good idea to take a stand at 1:30 in the morning. I told him that he’d have to try and go back to sleep on his own tonight. He started to complain and I got angry. I did lie down, but I snapped that this was the last night. By morning I felt pretty crappy about it, and I apologized to him. I said that, of course, he can come to mommy if he’s scared in the night, but we still need to think of something to help him go back to sleep on his own. For now, we’ve suggested that he turn on his ocean sounds if he needs them.
Anyone going or did go through this with their children? Suggestions?