I’ve lost my nice gentle mom voice. At least during homeschooling time. Actually, I don’t know if I ever really had one! I could never understand how some people can remain so calm during times of frustration. They say they get mad but they’re voices remain smooth like butter. Do they use Meditation? Mind over matter? Drugs????
Whatever it is I need to get me some because I’m losing it more and more quickly at my kids. Like today…
J and I were reading a math problem. It goes sorta like this: “Elena had 17 cookies. Jasper had 25 more cookies than Elena had. How many cookies did Jasper have?” I look at J and she has this blank look on her face. By the way, we’ve done a tonne of these kinds of problems in the past. So, I ask her, “Are we going to add or subtract, J?” “I dunno”, she answers. Sigh. So, I proceed to explain and draw out an example, and she’s laying her head down on the table and playing with the buttons on her sweater. “Do you understand?” I ask. She shrugs her shoulders in response and continues to examine a loose thread on her shirt. Grrrr!
R wasn’t any better today either. He solves the math problem but it’s like I’m inflicting some kind of torture device on him when I inform him that he still needs to write the answer in sentence form. He could have had THREE sentences written during all of that time of carrying on!!!!
Some days I do think they’d be better off at school. At least they wouldn’t be yelled at. Hmmm. Or would they? Is it better to be yelled at by a teacher or by your mom? Maybe they shouldn’t be yelled at at all! How’s that for a revelation, Debbie???
So, that brings me back to my original question: How does a person (me) remain calm during times of frustration?
Breeeeeathe. And think happy thoughts. And realize that in the big scheme of things this is really not a big deal.
Let’s see if it works…
PS To end on a positive note, J’s reading has improved IMMENSELY. And she loves to read, too. She struggled with it so much until the last few months. It’s a big relief to see the improvement mostly having to do with her actual joy of the activity. 😀 She adores spending time at the library. I hope this in the beginning of a life long love of reading.